The whole evening went smoothly, and we all had fun. I will post the ceremony here. Read the vows. They are very interesting.
This is the time that you have chosen to become husband and wife. We are here not only to witness your commitment to each other, but to wish you every happiness in your future life together. Marriage is founded on friendship, fortified with understanding and acceptance, sprinkled with patience, and topped with the sweet creme of intimate pleasure.
We believe that those qualities which have attracted you both to each other, can be best developed during a life spent together. A happy marriage will enable you to establish a home with love and stability where your family and friends will always be welcome.
An exerpt from "Gift From The Sea" by Anne Morrow Lindbergh
When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity - in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.
The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits - islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.
Minister: We shall now say your vows.
~~VOWS~~
His Vows
Vogonic reaches out for Magdalena's hand, drawing her nuckle slowly to his lips and kissing it gently, eyes closing as he takes a deep breath and pauses a moment. He lowers her hand as he reaches out with his other, and pulls their hands together, raising them between their hearts as he grips hers gently. He meets her eyes through the mist of emotion as he murmurs, "I, Vogonic, take you, Magdalenamarie to be my wedded wife. I love you sweetheart, you make me smile every day..."
Well...except the rare occasion when you infuriate me, and then I don't smile...but that's less than ten percent of the time, and I vow to work on reducing it to nine percent.
Vogonic nods to Magda and wipes a tear from his eye and whispers..."But I still love you when you infuriate me, and that is my most solemn vow to you...to love you in the really hard times, when we disagree, or fight...maybe not quite as much as the really fun times when we are laughing and stuff...but still a lot."
"I also vow to be faithful and neglect all others, and not just cause your cyber is so awesome and I'd be likely taking a step down, but because I respect you and never want to hurt your feelings in that way. I also vow to be with you as long as we both wish it, with forever being the goal, and knowing that when I wake every day and see your face it is because I choose you, not because I am bound by the duty of an agreement...and if you ever decide you have had enough of me, I vow not to stalk you too much...just an occasional review of your profile and maybe even some covert spying by an alt if I can track you down, but nothing too crazy."
Vogonic pauses a moment, as if thinking, then mutters, "I think that's all the important stuff."
My Vows:
Magdalenamarie sighs and looks up at her Big Brutal Teddy Bear. looking into your dark eyes i smile and speak. "Vogonic, I love you. You are my best friend. Today I give myself to you in marriage. I promise to come to you for all decisions especially the financial ones, to laugh with you when you realize you have fallen in that ten percent crazy zone, to comfort and diffuse you in times when you get moody and combative, and to protect you by any means necessary during left for dead,to pistol whip a hunter and even put myself in the path of a tank so you can get on the rescue ship."
Magdalena chuckles a bit and takes a deep breathe and continues. " I promise to love you in good times when you tell me you don't deserve me (which is silly) and in bad even as you scold me for not waiting for your help in putting in my video card, when life seems easy as we laugh together over the crazy things we write as we role play and when it seems hard, which is hardly ever to be sure. When our love is simple, and when it is an effort. I promise to cherish you, obey you and to always hold you in highest regard and trust your judgment no matter that your actions might prove other wise. These things I give to you today, and all the days of our life."
This is the time that you have chosen to become husband and wife. We are here not only to witness your commitment to each other, but to wish you every happiness in your future life together. Marriage is founded on friendship, fortified with understanding and acceptance, sprinkled with patience, and topped with the sweet creme of intimate pleasure.
We believe that those qualities which have attracted you both to each other, can be best developed during a life spent together. A happy marriage will enable you to establish a home with love and stability where your family and friends will always be welcome.
An exerpt from "Gift From The Sea" by Anne Morrow Lindbergh
When you love someone, you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity - in freedom, in the sense that the dancers are free, barely touching as they pass, but partners in the same pattern.
The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, nor forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now. Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits - islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides.
Minister: We shall now say your vows.
~~VOWS~~
His Vows
Vogonic reaches out for Magdalena's hand, drawing her nuckle slowly to his lips and kissing it gently, eyes closing as he takes a deep breath and pauses a moment. He lowers her hand as he reaches out with his other, and pulls their hands together, raising them between their hearts as he grips hers gently. He meets her eyes through the mist of emotion as he murmurs, "I, Vogonic, take you, Magdalenamarie to be my wedded wife. I love you sweetheart, you make me smile every day..."
Well...except the rare occasion when you infuriate me, and then I don't smile...but that's less than ten percent of the time, and I vow to work on reducing it to nine percent.
Vogonic nods to Magda and wipes a tear from his eye and whispers..."But I still love you when you infuriate me, and that is my most solemn vow to you...to love you in the really hard times, when we disagree, or fight...maybe not quite as much as the really fun times when we are laughing and stuff...but still a lot."
"I also vow to be faithful and neglect all others, and not just cause your cyber is so awesome and I'd be likely taking a step down, but because I respect you and never want to hurt your feelings in that way. I also vow to be with you as long as we both wish it, with forever being the goal, and knowing that when I wake every day and see your face it is because I choose you, not because I am bound by the duty of an agreement...and if you ever decide you have had enough of me, I vow not to stalk you too much...just an occasional review of your profile and maybe even some covert spying by an alt if I can track you down, but nothing too crazy."
Vogonic pauses a moment, as if thinking, then mutters, "I think that's all the important stuff."
My Vows:
Magdalenamarie sighs and looks up at her Big Brutal Teddy Bear. looking into your dark eyes i smile and speak. "Vogonic, I love you. You are my best friend. Today I give myself to you in marriage. I promise to come to you for all decisions especially the financial ones, to laugh with you when you realize you have fallen in that ten percent crazy zone, to comfort and diffuse you in times when you get moody and combative, and to protect you by any means necessary during left for dead,to pistol whip a hunter and even put myself in the path of a tank so you can get on the rescue ship."
Magdalena chuckles a bit and takes a deep breathe and continues. " I promise to love you in good times when you tell me you don't deserve me (which is silly) and in bad even as you scold me for not waiting for your help in putting in my video card, when life seems easy as we laugh together over the crazy things we write as we role play and when it seems hard, which is hardly ever to be sure. When our love is simple, and when it is an effort. I promise to cherish you, obey you and to always hold you in highest regard and trust your judgment no matter that your actions might prove other wise. These things I give to you today, and all the days of our life."
RING VOWS
Groom: Magdalenamarie with this ring I thee wed. Wear it as a symbol of eternity and renewal, and a sign of my commitment to you.
Bride: Vogonic, with this ring I thee wed. Wear it as a symbol of eternity and renewal, and a sign of my commitment to you.
Wedding Prayer" by Robert Lewis Stevenson
Everyone , behold our family here assembled.
We thank you for this place in which we dwell,
for the love that unites us,
for the peace accorded us this day,
for the hope with which we expect the morrow,
for the health, the work, the food,
and the bright skies that make our lives delightful;
for our friends in all parts of the earth.
Minister: You have declared before all of us that you will live together in marriage. You have made special promises to each other, which have been symbolized by the joining of hands, taking of vows and the giving and receiving of rings. By the authority vested in me as a Minister in Secondlife, I now pronounce you to be husband and wife. Now that the ceremony is over and the experience of living day by day is about to begin, go and meet it gladly.
Embrace each other.
Its my pleasure to present to you: Mr. and Mrs. Vogonic Cooperstone!
P.S. I never really noticed till the next day but our wedding day was my rezz day! YAY!!
